Setting up a Harem
The overall goal of establishing a Harem is always the same, to be surrounded by a number of women. To accomplish this goal you have to approach the problem in a structured well thought out method. Lets cover a few of the infinite topic areas that you will need to consider.
Depth of Relationship
Assuming you have a Deep relationship preference for your harem. You would take personal interest in the lives and preferences of the individual women within your harem similar to how you would when you have a singular girlfriend. Each individual woman may not be sufficient to fulfill a total overall desire but their collective efforts cumulatively may. Looking at the relationship between you and each women with a degree of care and desire to ensure their individual happiness and in turn they make you happy. Deep relationships receive more joy from the individual connection and shared experiences with the individual members. These harems have lower turnover rates due to the desire for deeper intimacy and individualized attention.
Now assuming you have a Shallow relationships preference for your harem. You would take personal interest in how the women as a collective are tailored to your personal preferences with each fulfilling a purpose or role. Each women can be treated as a girlfriend but viewed as interchangeable or exchangeable. Looking at the relationship between you and the harem as a collective with the desire to ensure your individual happiness and or the happiness of the harem as a collective. Receiving more joy from the harem as a whole and the shared experiences with the group rather than the individual members. These harems can have higher turnover rates without any loss to the joy received from the harem itself.
Management Style
Personally managed harems are time intensive and aggravating but can lead to higher quality and more personalized results. When you are the only one locating, screening and managing the harem the volume of time and aggravation required to conduct all of these activities can feel like a full time job making the build not feel worth the effort. Personally conducting these activities will provide you the understanding of everything that is going on within and around the harem. Spending that volume of time and effort can be personally rewarding when the fruits of your labor come to fruition with higher quality and more personalized women. If you have the time, energy, patience and technical know how to manage all of the tasks this is the direction to go.
The quality of a harem is directly dependent on the skillsets of the person in charge of building and maintaining the harem. That is why finding a strong local manager with the innate abilities is critical. They will be able to provide better sourcing techniques and internal management of the women due to their understanding of the local environment. They will have local knowledge of where and how to search for the quality and type of individuals you are looking for along with what can be done with the women or shouldn’t be done with them or alternatively where it could be done. These activities could be broken up into multiple job roles and assigned to multiple individuals. Talent Acquisition Mamasan, Talent Management Mamasan, Executive Assistant. If you would like assistance with this, send a message on the contact page.1
Length of Relationship
Time is money and money is time. The more time you spend the less money you pay, and the less time you spend the more money you pay. This is due to Maslow’s Hierarchy of Needs2 and an assumption you posses a common level of human decency, allow me to explain. Maslow’s Hierarchy of Needs has a base level of Physiological needs that encompass basic human survival characteristic such as food, water and shelter. If a women were to stay with you for a long period of time it is assumed that she would be invited to eat with you at the dining establishments of your choice and stay with you at a hotel or condo. Considering the areas of the world where harems are easily capable of being established at a reasonable cost the establishments that you would be comfortable eating and residing at would almost certainly be considerably fancier than anything these women are accustom to. Assuming the women of your harem stay a longer period of time Maslow’s second Hierarchy of Safety comes into play. At this point your providing security, living stability, financial security, and looking after their health. You are doing this by providing them a stable place to stay, food to eat, possible medical attention if needed, and protection from the potential negative factors of living at absolute poverty. The longer and longer the women stay and the style of relationship you provide the women of your harem allows them to actualize higher levels of the Needs Hierarchy thus requiring less direct money and more indirect support being provided. This allows you to have more time spent with the women and less money directly contributed to them. In many cases women of a well kept harem are more than willing to stay for no money at all.
The opposite of Maslow’s equation is equally true. If you are not going to allow the women to acquire any level of actualization of their needs they will trade what they have for money so they can then independently acquire the realization of their needs.
Financial Considerations
Housing and feeding a large number of women can get expensive. Increasing the number of women can greatly increase costs due to larger accommodations required for the increased number or individuals allowed per room or simply more accommodations required. Most hotels have an occupancy limit of two with additional costs for a third individual in the standard rooms and upgrades requires to premium suites for larger numbers of guests. Cost of accommodations very significantly due to personal preferences on size, quality, location, and duration. The cost of food can be adjusted with quality of restaurant choices or home cooked meals depending on the accommodations. Every activity such as a meal, transportation or outing will need to be multiplied by the number of women added to the harem, this can add up quickly.
Churn or Turnover
There will be a level of turnover among the women and identifying how to replace them while simultaneously still enjoying the harem can be a challenge. Meeting each new candidate individually and introduce them to the harem once you have identified them as a possible positive addition runs the risk of the harem rejecting the new candidate even after you screened them and you lose the time spent with your harem as you are filtering new candidates. Alternatively you can let the harem screen the new candidates to see if the new women could be a suitable fit, this method runs the quality control risk and overwhelming the new candidate to early on.
Personalities
Obviously women can be emotional, opinionated and hormonal. Managing this is not possible and good luck to you. The best you can hope for is picking the correct personalities to add to your harem to have a reduced turnover rate. Watch out for jealousy, personality conflicts, bad habits, attachment issues, trash talking and way more. Good Luck
Legal Laws
In most countries having a harem in illegal, meaning it’s not legal, also meaning have fun but do not cause trouble and you will be fine. Prostitution and financial arrangements are widely and openly accepted for the most part in the top recommended countries3, as long as your in the correct areas of the country and you are being respectful. Seeing an 80 year old man walking in and out of his hotel room with a different 20 year old women every couple of hours is considered normal. No one is going to call the police or say anything other than requesting the women identification card to be kept at the front desk just in case she robs you or that you are not exceeding the occupancy limit for the room.
Having the front desk ID the women coming in with you is also a good way to make sure the new women are not men pretending to be women so they can rob or extort you. If you have the same women consistently the front desk employees at the hotels will likely no longer request the ID on file after a few days.
Adultery is taken very seriously and is punishable with jail time in the Philippines. Divorce is uncommon and difficult which leads to many women being separated but not divorced. This mean if a women is separated from her husband for several years but magically her husband finds you sleeping with her, you will go to jail for adultery or be extorted by the husband. If a women says she is separated that means get rid of her and find someone new.
Location
It is a personal preference that has no bearing on the construction of the harem as the acceptability of utilizing a private residence or hotel room is the same along with having one consistent location vs moving around once you have worn out your welcome. As long as the location is properly scouted out and the staff or surrounding area associated with the location finds the activities acceptable. Any one place is as good as the next. You will find that the designated tourist districts, expat communities or Red Light Districts will be more understanding or tolerant of interesting behaviors more so than local residential communities.